He's upset that we told each other about our issues with his fans instead of talking to him about it. But that's just part of it. He's not well, but I don't think it's just about being sick.
I didn't mean to be such a bitch about any of that. I was just frustrated because I never get time with him. Most of the time, he's cancelled on me or had a billion other things on his mind at the same time. I feel like I'm right back at square one, though. He's cut me off before.
I guess mine was more selfish, because I do get to spend a lot of time with him. But it's mostly just... I don't know, it's the fans who are rude or who don't just say hello and take pictures and move on. I don't know. I don't know what to say to him.
The difference is, you haven't seen how he can be when he wants to push people away this much. This is just how he deals, I guess. I'm not sorry for what I said, because it bugged me that his time was thwarted like that.
I'm not going to say he doesn't listen, because that's not at all true. He listens, and probably too closely. He pushed people away when having to think his own thoughts and then someone else's is too much, and it makes his head all fucked up. At least, now that I know he's sick, that's how I translated the time he yelled at me to shut up and fuck off right before I never heard from him again.
I know it's hard for him to find his feet in times like that... when he's trying to take on board what everyone else is saying, and his own feelings, too. I should've just told him in the beginning how I felt and we could've worked through it.
Sure, but would you have ever gotten used to the fans? I've watched him with them. He just sort of responds to them. There doesn't seem to be a thought process in it. He doesn't really let them engaged with him for a long time either. He moves them along quickly. Just, when there's hoards of them, it feels like that takes forever and next thing you know, the time is up and he has to go to work.
I feel like if we'd just talked about it, maybe I wouldn't have gotten so upset about it before I came to understand how he felt about it. Maybe if I'd just listened to him and talked to him about it, I wouldn't have upset him so much.
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